In most Indian families, teenagers and young adults don’t speak to their parents or other adults in their families about dating, relationships and sex. They depend upon the internet, movies, television serials and books to solve their relationship woes. Most youngsters, when they begin to date, don’t know what’s right, what’s wrong, what a healthy relationship looks like, and when they should just run and never look back.
So, a bunch of women who are in their 40s and 50s with a lot of experience in dating decided to shower advice on women in their 20s who are playing the field. Many women in their 20s are still figuring out what works for them and what doesn’t. Some end up having pretty bad experiences when it comes to relationships and wished they had someone to show them some light.
So the 40 to 50-year-old women hopped on the subreddit r/AskWomen on Reddit when a user asked, “Women of Reddit in their 40s and 50s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20s?”
Here’s a look at some of the responses:
1. Never settle. If you want more from the relationship or out of your partner, then be vocal about it and if your needs aren’t met, then just walk away.
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by u/Shot-Tackle-4792 from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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2. Relationships need work to be put in for them to be successful. It’s not just some magical thing that figures itself out on its own.
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by u/gonzothegreatz from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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3. You cannot ‘fix’ anyone. So stop trying to.
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by u/KikiChrome from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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4. Listen to your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t right.
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by u/Cocoangels from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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5. The way you treat yourself shows others how to treat you.
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by u/rudebish from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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6. You need to be on the same page. You might have different hobbies and totally opposing personalities but your basic values and morals need to align.
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by u/susan360360 from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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7. Don’t rush into anything. Take your time to enjoy the relationship.
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by u/gagirlpnw from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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8. Be very clear about what you want from the relationship.
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by u/HemlockYum from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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9. Don’t forget your friends because of your relationship. A lot of people stop talking to their friends after they start dating someone. Never do that. Having a support system like a group of friends is really important.
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by u/ScaredShip9318 from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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10. Relationships are supposed to make you feel safe, loved and happy. If it doesn’t, leave.
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by u/whats_a_bylaw from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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11. Fill your own cup first.
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by u/Traditional_Ad3233 from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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12. Some relationships aren’t just meant to be.
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by u/enigmaniac from discussion Women of Reddit in their 40’s and 50’s, what’s the biggest suggestion you would give to women dating in their 20’s?
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I wish I had someone to give me such advice when I started dating!