India is a beautiful mosaic of diverse languages, cultures, and traditions. With every state bringing its own linguistic flavour to the table, cross-cultural relationships often highlight how love transcends barriers. But, let’s face it – when two people come from different linguistic backgrounds, finding a common language can be a game-changer.
Saiswaroopa Iyer, a Telugu woman, recently shared on X how Hindi played an instrumental role in her relationship with her Tamil husband. Despite understanding each other’s native tongues, neither could hold a proper conversation in the other’s language. That’s when Hindi swooped in to save the day.

She explained that while English was an option, it felt a little too formal for their family setting. For them, Hindi brought a sense of comfort and familiarity that English just couldn’t match. Read her full post here:
I am Telugu.
Husband is Tamizh.Each of us can understand the other’s language but cannot form a conversation.
Our common language – Hindi. Hindi helped us bond better. I am glad both of us know Hindi. English would have been super weird within family. I encourage everyone to…
— Saiswaroopa Iyer (@Sai_swaroopa) January 10, 2025
Iyer also shared how her husband, who grew up in Mumbai, was naturally more comfortable expressing himself in Hindi.
We both live in Bengaluru sir. His family had long migrated to Mumbai (And Kerala before that). So not much Chennai connection except for some remote relatives and friends. Even extended family is more Bombay than TN.
— Saiswaroopa Iyer (@Sai_swaroopa) January 10, 2025
Her post resonated with many, sparking discussions about the importance of knowing an additional Indian language. Many others shared similar instances of their families speaking in a common language. Have a look:
I am a Mangalorean My husband is a Maharashtrian. If I had taught only Tulu to my children the father would never be able to speak to the children . Hindi allowed the conversation
— Punita Toraskar (@impuni) January 10, 2025
You know. My paternal grandparents had the same dynamic. He was a Tamilian and she was from Vijayawada. They decided on English as the common language instead. The end product was me who knows just English
— Aaron Zakhrov (@zakhrov) January 11, 2025
Self born in Mumbai.. Wife born in Delhi and both are Tam Bram but converse in Hindi 🤣
— Jambudvipa Dialogues (@JambudvipaD) January 10, 2025
I know a Christian Malayali boy and a Hindu Tamil girl couple, who communicate in Hindi as their common language, despite living in Bengaluru. I truly believe that Hindi should be adopted as the common language across the country instead of English.
I don’t think people in North…— Rajput boy (@shameontwiter) January 11, 2025
Speaking any language is a personal choice, but in urban areas, Hindi will be the default language spoken by all. In Chandigarh, people from Punjab, Haryana and Himachal (none of whom have Hindi as mother tongue) use it as the bridge language. There’s no entitlement in it.
— John Doe (@johndoeak47) January 11, 2025
I’m Tamil from Bengal. Used to converse in English with Dad, Tamil with mom and extended family, Bangla with cousins, and Hindi with the domestic help, shopkeepers etc. picked up bits & pieces of Malayalam, Odiya, Rajasthani, & Punjabi, so can use some cute phrases appropriately
— Sujatha (@sujatha21) January 10, 2025
Between my Tamizh & my wife’s Malayalam; we also slip in Hindi, Marathi & English!
Sometimes, for fun, cuss words in Telugu are used (“Kukka” etc. 😂) or Kannada (“Goobe” etc. 😄) or Sanskrit (“Gardabham” etc. 😷)
Comes in handy to have a secret conversation in front of others!— Vishwanathan Iyer 🇮🇳 (@vishy173) January 10, 2025
I lived in Oman and UAE .for few years.there majority of Indians were from south india and they all knew and spoke Hindi well.All communicated in Hindi and felt bonded as Bhartiya. All of a sudden we hear that ppl of south don’t want to speak Hindi ..sounds strange
— Deepa Bhatnagar (@DeepaBhatnagar5) January 10, 2025
Whether it’s Hindi, English, or any other language, what truly matters is finding common ground and cherishing the bond that grows from it.