Gone are the days when people were happy to be freeloaders at a wedding taking place within their families’ or friends’ circles, where they would go, eat, drink, make merry and come back home. Nowadays, attending a friend’s wedding is quite the task – one has to prepare a bachelor’s/bachelorette’s party, a bridal shower, buy elaborate gifts, fancy outfits, and what not. If there happens to be a destination wedding, be prepared to burn a hole in your pockets.
For example, a doctor named Sravan Panuganti shared how his wife is the bridesmaid for one of her friend’s destination wedding and is to spend about Rs 4.17 lakh for it. The expenses include attending the bachelorette party, bridal shower, purchasing a dress, and the travel cost of the entire family to go to the wedding.
“Terrible thing to do to your friends, should really make your worst enemies do this,” the doctor wrote.
Have a look at his tweet here:
Wife is a bridesmaid in friends destination wedding, $2k to attend bachelorette party, $1500 for bridal shower, another couple hundred for a dress, spending around $5K as a fam to get to wedding.
Terrible thing to do to your friends, should really make your worst enemies do this
— Sravan Panuganti, DO, FACOS (@SPuro88) April 16, 2024
When asked about why the expenses for the bachelorette party are so high, the doctor revealed that the expenses included flights, accommodation and activities for four days.
Flight, accommodations for 4 days, activities- I think they went jet skiing, did one of those pedal bike drinking things, eating out for food & drink and then paying the bride’s part for some stuff…surprised it didn’t come out to more.
— Sravan Panuganti, DO, FACOS (@SPuro88) April 17, 2024
Several people online agreed how annoying this is and stressed that one should say ‘no’ to such wedding invitations if they cannot afford it. Here’s how some people reacted:
No bridal showers or bachelorettes if both the bride and groom are over 30.
— Luba Lesiva (@loobah_l) April 16, 2024
i’m in 4 weddings this year. I told all the brides my budget was 1200 for everything: engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette, hair + make up, dress, wedding expenses. and if I go over, I cant afford a gift… it’s wild how much money we can spend without them realizing.
— Sydneyxx (@Sydney_Matuszak) April 17, 2024
We had to go to Thailand AND India for a friend’s wedding in one year … soon after, they ghosted us
— ~ALY~ (@kkthanks) April 17, 2024
Good thing I’m a bad friend about these. I did one once and they’re honestly not even fun. You don’t sleep, the dress is often not cute and not a good deal, and it’s not even a vacation
— Esther (@polyeaster) April 17, 2024
I would totally pass on that myself. Seems like a lot of money to spend on someone else’s party…but maybe that’s just me.
— Allbur Chellak ???? (@utopianmae) April 16, 2024
Had a big falling out with my brother when I couldn’t attend his bachelor party weekend for his second wedding.
— John K. Michaels (@Pecker2002) April 17, 2024
Damn!! That’s about what we spent for our entire wedding week back in 2012. ?
So there’s no way I’d wanna spend that kind of? to go to someone else’s wedding (perhaps unless I was independently wealthy)
— Bryce L. Williams (@TheDPCMarketer) April 17, 2024
I would tell them to stream it and then send a gift card. Ridiculous.
— Steven (@sigwo) April 17, 2024
That is ridiculous. My bachelorette party was at the local karaoke bar. I let them pick out their dresses and wear whatever they wanted. My shower was hosted by friends of my parents at their home. The wedding was held in my hometown. Women, respect your friends more than this!
— N (@elocinita) April 17, 2024
Would you say ‘yes’ to a wedding invite like this?